Relationships. : )

It’s been a pretty intense few weeks (if not 2 years!) for many of us. Seems like we’re all being asked to take a very good look at our ‘relationships’…who we are in them, what we expect from them and why. Many of us, when looking at relationships, consider the ones we are in with another person. However, the most important relationship we will ever have in our entire existence is the one we have with ourselves. It is THAT relationship that gets projected out onto the rest of our relationships…whether that is with another person (platonic or romantic), a situation, or something else (nature, animals, and the world in general).

So, as we begin to take a look at what our current relationships look like to us, we can remember that what ever it is we are seeing (or experiencing) is a mirror of what is going on within.

Not liking the relationship you are in right now? Ask yourself why. Stay away from blaming the other person, or making their actions the reason for your discomfort. Look at you…and just you. Why are you uncomfortable? What is their behavior triggering inside of you? Is it making you feel unappreciated…unloved…unworthy…etc.? Nobody has the ability to make you feel anything. If it is being triggered inside of you, it is because you already have that belief about yourself to begin with. The other person’s behavior is simply reminding you of that belief. They didn’t put it there, you did. Hence…this is the relationship you have with yourself. Yes, when you are liking your relationship, you are still looking at a reflection of Self, you are seeing the Love that you are projecting out.

When you change the relationship you have with Self, when you see yourself for the perfection and wholeness, limitless and boundless Self that you are, then THAT is what gets projected out onto the rest of your ‘relationships’.

Every relationship we have…whether it be with a human, animal, nature, situation, etc…gives us the opportunity to see and know ourselves. Again, working on the knowledge that every relationship is a projection of the one with have with ourselves, so naturally we are looking at ourselves.

The term ‘relationship’ itself implies the existence of parts. But, there is only One. We are One…so, everything that we are in relationship with. IS essentially Self.

How you view that ‘relationship’ is key. Are you viewing through the ego ‘eye’…or through Consciousness?

Healing

Healing…what an interesting phenomenon. How do we describe this act that everyone is wanting at some point in their lives. We want to heal physical wounds as well as emotional wounds. The common denominator regarding both is that we usually go to someone outside of ourselves to assist us in the act of healing. Hell, most times we depend solely on another person to do all of our healing for us. Whether that person is a medical doctor, a naturopath, an energy ‘healer’, etc. Doesn’t matter what they call themselves, healing is the key word.

What we don’t realize though is that emotional wounds and physcial wounds are directly connected. Our emotional state is a direct reflection of our physical state. Yup…direct reflection. So, if we focus on ‘healing’ only the symptom or the wound, we are seriously missing the boat. And chances are…actually, it’s 100% assured…it will reoccur. Maybe not in the same place, or with the same symptom, but it will most definintely return. Then what? We go back to the ‘doctor’. No wonder they make so much money! LOL

Healing is a state of mind. Yup…a state of mind. An idea that we were given as children and we are still holding on to desperately. When actually, another person can not ‘heal’ your pain or wound (be it physical or emotional). Another person may be a catalyst for your focus shifting…but they don’t heal your wound. And, that is what healing is all about. Not ‘healing’ the wound, but shifting your focus from one of ‘less-than’ (because that is after all what creates the wound) to one of Love. Love doesn’t ‘heal’ the wound, it just removes it totally…because there can be no wound (or pain) in the space of Love…only perfection.

Not to say that ‘doctors’ aren’t needed…we all need a little help remembering who we are once in a while. But to rely on them solely for ‘healing’ will only keep you in the space of ‘pain’. Energy workers/healers are fabulous because while under their immediate care you literally are shifting your focus from one of ‘less-than’ to one of something else. They can help move you into a space of Truth. Only you can walk through the door, but they can guide you to it. Only you can experience the Truth. Then you must learn to do it on your own. And, when you do…you too will realize that there is nothing that needs healing…that you have been and still are and always will be…simply perfect.

Outside

There is no such thing as ‘outside’ of you. That is the illusion.

This simple idea that there is an inside and an outside (which by the way would be duality) is an illusion.

You are everything…I do mean everything. And ‘everything’ resides ‘within’. Within being a word construed of duality. But where do I find a word that describes what simply is…not within, not without…just simply All, part of the whole, conclusive, contained.

Ha! That’s a great word…contained…yet still indicates duality.

I guess you have to just experience it to understand because I really don’t have any words for it.

We hear people, scholars, quantum physicist, gurus, and etc talk about the fact that this world is an illusion. They talk about the fact that even the things that we think are solid really aren’t. Like the chair you are sitting on, or the floor you are standing on. It’s all a trick of the eye, of the mind. That there is space between the atoms and molecules and all that fun stuff…yet it seems to be solid when in fact it isn’t. Well it goes much deeper than that. It’s not that the items that seem to be outside of our physical body are the illusion…it’s the whole idea that there’s even an outside that is fake, false, illusion.

We are all already part of everything…everything. Nothing, no thing, left ‘out’.

There is no ‘outside’.

Oh tell me that doesn’t make for a much more interesting, intriguing, fun filled day!

Life is not a test!

So I was hanging out meditating last night…just me and my Ouzo dog. : ) Tons of information started coming through…reminders really. I mean I know this, but it was a wonderful reminder. Something’s coming. I can feel it. Instead of me trying to describe what I was given, I’ll just write what I wrote as it was given to me. (My own thoughts are in italics)

Life is not a test – it is a choice! You can not fail so BRING IT! (You know how some people say that ‘we’re here to learn’…that’s what they were talking about regarding a test). What will you choose today? Will you choose Love or fear (fear as a limiting believe where we believe ourselves to be unworthy, unlovable, etc). Choose Love. Love yourself unconditionally, whole heartedly…every second of every day. Love Love Love.

Life has nothing to do with having to learn something – how to love, how to be happy, how to have patience, etc. You already ARE all of those things – you just choose not to see it.

And for those of you who are not understanding Love from within…who is teaching you love? Is it the same people who teach you judgment, anger, hate, fear, doubt, etc? If so, then what they ‘teach’ is not really love at all. Love, true Love, does not live in the same place as fear. It never has, and it never will.

You do not need to learn Love – you ARE already Love. Remembrance – remember Love, not learn love.

You choose not to see your own Love simply because you have a belief that you are somehow broken (not worthy, unlovable, separate, etc). That one belief is what keeps you from knowing Love, from knowing your True Self, from living a life of joy, abundance and health.

No one is broken! That one belief, that one idea, is a lie and it is keeping you from Love…YOUR Love.

It is your choice always. Will you live your fear or will you live your Love?

 Nuff said.

In Love,
Trish

Holding On

This weekend I had the opportunity to sit next to a woman during lunch. We were both attending a function in town and this was our lunch break. Of course the conversation turned ‘spiritual’. She was mentioning that she was in a stressful place and trying to decide whether or not to “…hand it over to Holy Spirit” (yes, she is studying A Course In Miracles). Call it what you will, Holy Spirit, God, Universe, etc…they are all the same and she calls It Holy Spirit.

Anyway…I had to laugh…simply because ‘Holy Spirit’ already has it, always has, and always will. Our choice to hand it over hasn’t a damn thing to do with whether or not ‘Holy Spirit’ takes it. The ONLY thing we are holding onto, with our dear life for that matter, is an idea. An idea of how we want our world, a specific situation, a relationship, etc, to look like. And 100% of the time, if we are struggling with that situation (which is why we would hand it over to Holy Spirit) that would clearly indicate that it is not serving us…yet we fight so hard to make it work. Meanwhile, ‘Holy Spirit’ is gently reminding us that there is another way…if only we would let go of the idea that is causing us stress! LOL

Seriously, I had to laugh. Who do we think we’re kidding anyway? Why are we so determined to make our lives (relationships included) look and feel a specific way? (and, it’s a way that nobody is having any luck with to boot.) Because, ‘that way’ is an idea that has been handed down to us through the ages. Nobody, OK, very few people, have questioned, and even fewer have decided not to follow. Talk to those who have decided not to follow the old idea and I guarantee you will find some very happy (Truly happy) people.

Take relationships for example. We (as children) are conditioned with an idea of what relationships are supposed to look like…whether it’s a friendship, romantic relationship, work relationship, etc…and we believe in the promise of what that relationship will bring us so much that we totally give up everything that we are in order to make the relationship work. And I do mean ‘work’, the way we were conditioned to think it works. Here we are, holding on desperately to a relationship with someone else that is obviously not working, while totally letting go of the most important relationship we will ever have…the one with ourselves.

What’s sad is that the relationship goes sour and we then blame ourselves. We continue to self-sacrifice, blame and belittle ourselves (and others) because no matter what we do we just can’t make it ‘work’. Well of course it won’t work! What kills me is that we are so ‘hooked’ on what the promise of that relationship brings us that we totally deny our own Self. And then we wonder why we’re sick and relationships don’t work?

You’ve heard me say it before…at least I think you have…THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP YOU WILL EVER HAVE IS THE ONE YOU HAVE WITH YOURSELF. Yup! Here we are, holding on desperately to a relationship with someone else that is obviously not working, while totally letting go of the most important relationship we will ever have…the one with ourselves. And, here we are totally ignoring our relationship with Self simply because we think that another person, outside of ourselves, is the one that will make life perfect for us. Well, I’m here to tell you that the one that makes life perfect for you…IS YOU. Nobody else can do that for you…EVER. Now, I’m not saying that we’re meant to be loners all of our lives, simply that we’re meant to come together for a very different reason…and one that does not look even remotely close to what we think it does.

We get so mad when our partners and friends don’t see us for who we are. Hell, when all we do is wear masks all day, trying to be what we think the other person will like, how could they possibly know us for who we are? Really. We’re too afraid that we won’t be liked, won’t be accepted, won’t be Loved…so we try to be something to ensure that we will.

We get so made when our partners don’t behave the way we want them to behave. Well of course they’re not, and it’s not fair to force them too. And besides, why should they? The only reason why we want them to is so that we can feel better about our own ideas and judgments about ourselves. Not fair at all. Because even when the other person does respond to our NEEDY request we often find something else about them that needs to be changed. How about we simply change ourselves to realize that everything we will ever need lives inside of us. We do not need another person to do or be anything else. And when we stop making them be something we want them to be, allowing them to Be what they want to be, maybe then we’ll see them for who they really are…as well as see ourselves for who we really are.

Love. It goes a long way…all the way actually. It enables us to share with others who we Truly are while others share what they Truly are, free of judgments.

Love. It bridges gaps and brings people together in ways we could have never dreamed.

Love. It’s all we need because everything lives within it. Love, Universe, God, Holy Spirit…is everything…and we are not part of it, WE ARE IT.

Love holds NO requirements. None! If you need someone to Be a certain way before you ‘love’ them or ‘be friends’ with them…than you’re not in a loving space at all. At that point, you are using them to fill your own false ideas so that you can feel better about yourself.

Love. There’s the smile. There’s the warmth. There’s the joy. There’s the bliss.

Love.

Perfection

I am inspired to write this because of a friend of mine, a dear friend. As she moves through her own journey she is creating some pretty potent stumbling blocks. My heart, although filled with Love for her, sometimes slips into a space of sadness. I want so much to reach out and help her, to ease her ‘pain’ and help her ‘heal’. I use quotations for those specific words because I know that her pain is self assumed, and her healing is also self assumed. There is no need for me to believe in that with her.

While I was ‘wanting’ to help her I was becoming frustrated because I knew I could not. I was reminded that even though I can not understand what she was going through, and why she was choosing to go through it, didn’t mean that it was perfect on a deeper level. That reminder struck such a deep cord within me. I had to let go of the idea, the wanting, to make her journey ‘right’. Who’s right was I wanting to impart anyway? My right…or her right? And who’s to say that my idea of what right is was the ‘right’ right for her?

I was forced (thankfully) to move into the space of Trust…trusting that she is absolutely perfect and she already has everything she needs in her state of perfection.

I was also reminded that as long as I could see my own perfection I would clearly see not only her perfection, but everyone’s and everything’s perfection. If I am seeing only the perfection in me, then how could I ever see anything less than that in anyone else? And that theory swings the other way as well…if I am seeing only the ‘less-than’ part of myself, then I will see only the ‘less-than’ part of everyone and everything else.

Choices…what do you choose to see in yourself? Becuase what you see in yourself is exactly what you see in everyone else. And, that is exactly what experience you will have. Take a peak within yourself and see just what your perfection looks like. I promise, you will not be disappointed.

Oh yeah, I’m here to remind you that excuses = fear. All of those excuses that you come up with for not doing things, are simply you thinking that ‘you can’t’ do something. All of those excuses that you come up with for not meditating are simply you believing that you can’t do it. And what happens if you can do it? What then? Holy crap that means you are responsible for your own life…and then right there I felt you move back into the belief of “I can’t do it by myslef” and “Life is too hard to do it by myslef”. Oh funny little humans we are.

Enjoy life!
In Love,
Trish

Replenishing Belief

How’s everyone doing with the eclipses? Better yet, how are you doing…period? Are you feeling like you’re being squeezed…or are you riding the wave joyously to the next cycle? It’s been a trip, that’s for sure. So many belief systems are being blown out of the water! YAHOO!

It might not always be an easy journey, but that’s because we are resisting. For soooo long we have been conditioned to a very specific set of beliefs and ideas about ourselves and the world in general. We’ve been choosing these old beliefs for sooo long that we don’t even realize we’re doing it.

I’m having soooo much fun discovering where those old beliefs are…and what they are…and then blowing them up. Sometimes it’s even frustrating for me though…but then I remember that as long as I stop resisting then everything…and I do mean everything…runs smoothly and fabulously!

Currently I’ve set out to shift the conditioned belief of lack. Oh, I know that this multiverse if absolutely unlimited. It replenishes itself constantly. I’ve been noticing that when I move into that space, or belief, of replenishment that the dog food bin never runs out. I have to laugh. It reminds me that for soooo long (do you like my ‘soooo’) I’ve always believed that it was supposed to deplete as I used it, and then we just go buy more. Says who? That’s something I was taught to believe by someone who also had that belief. Well, I don’t want to belief in lack anymore.

And since that belief is standing in front of me I’m noticing that it’s not just about a depleting dog food bin…it’s about how often I choose from that old belief…when I’m using shampoo, mustard, cat food, toilet paper, gasoline, money, etc. It’s about the very mundane things that we use in our every day life that we continue to impart the belief of depletion upon them! See, we don’t even realize we’re doing it!

Oh this is just fascinating. What would happen in the world if we all choose to believe in and experience the replenishing aspect of who we really Are? Then money would seriously hold absolutely NO power what so ever. That really makes me giggle inside. How freely we could enjoy our experience here on this planet, simply enjoy it! What a novel concept! LOL

Who taught us that we are here (on this planet) to ‘learn’ something? Seriously! Some human had the thought that we must be here learning something and other humans decided to believe that! Oh we are so gullible when we seek answers outside of ourselves. We are not here to ‘learn’ anything. We already ‘know’ everything. We’re here simply to experience all that we already Are in this physical realm. Period, end of story.

We trap ourselves in such chaos and frustration by choosing to partake in a different belief…when we choose to listen to someone else’s idea of what the heck this world is all about and how we’re supposed to live in it. Garbage I tell ya…just garbage.

Move into the “I Can” believe…leave the ‘how’ to your Soul…it’s more equipped to handle it than your mind is. Simply stay in the “I Can” space and watch the doors fly open. They might not look like what you expect, but then again, what you expect was given to you by someone else…not your Soul. Go with the unexpected…believe in yourself. You have no idea what you are capable of until you take that journey inward and see for yourself. What you find there is simply amazing, simply beautiful, simply everything.

Take the ride and let me know what you find…for we each find something different. How exciting is that!?

In Love,
Trish